I am young, but I believe everything is worth the wait. I understand now that getting everything I want when I want it is not how life works but having to wait for something makes it worthwhile. Whether you are looking for the perfect job or the perfect one, I think it all comes to you at the right time. You may think you are ready for it, but that does not mean that you are. I have seen that many purity rings have the engraving ‘True love waits’ and I agree. So I would say especially when it comes to relationships, wait. Do not rush or jump into it headfirst. We live in a fast-paced world making waiting seem more like an idea than a probable action, but it is…at least to me.
“Hide your love away and wait for me. I will do the same. So wait for me.”
-Hide Your Love Away, Anthem Lights
It might not be easy to say ‘LORD, I surrender all to you. Let YOUR will be done in my life.’ In fact it is often scary to see things happening that are beyond your control. But think about it. Is anything really ever in your control?
How is it that you can forget to set your alarm yet still wake up in the morning? Tell me that it is through sheer will that you open your eyes…no matter what science may argue, I say that it is not. Every day that we open our eyes is a sign of grace. The unmerited favour of GOD upon our lives. Just think how much we do during the day and we often struggle to find a moment to say ‘Thank YOU.’ Two small words, but it shows an immense sense of gratitude. Try it. Thank YOU, LORD for waking me up this morning. Thank you that I am able to yet again see the beauty and splendour of all your creations.
These words may seem trivial to some, but it is not about using the most fancy language it is about the message behind it. And this message is simply one of gratitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Why not just take a moment to acknowledge that?
‘Let go and let GOD’. Everywhere I look people appear to be saying this and it reminds me of a story. This is quite different from what I usually write, but different does not necessarily mean bad.
I lived my life practically in a bubble. No one aside from my immediate family were ever let in. That is how it always was for me, but when I eventually made friends..that changed. Gradually I found myself getting used to having people in my life, but the closer I got to them. The more distant I felt. Until eventually I was sitting with them but never spoke.
I felt as though I lost all my friends at once and resigned myself to writing a letter. Not one that I would give to them, but rather one that I would keep in my journal. In the letter, I would write down everything that had happened since I had met them and how much they changed my life.
And at the end I would add something like: ”They showed me the importance of love and every smile, every ounce of happiness will forever be imprinted in my memory. They showed me how inner beauty can change the way people see you. I am forever grateful for meeting them, but I wrote this to remind myself of something everyday. It is almost as though I will be reminding myself that it is okay. That we grew apart for a reason and that even though we do not see each other anymore, they are still my friends.“
Letting go can be difficult, but people are only in your life for a season. Some seasons appear longer than others. And we fight for some people to stay more than others. But life is unpredictable. We cannot force people to stay. When the role someone has played in your life is over, do not create scenarios about how different things could have been had you done this or that. Prolonging a season just ends up making both parties unhappy and chances are you will part on not-so-good terms. Know that your life is like a tree sprouting new branches when the old ones wither and break. Something good may have ended but something great could be on its way.
For as long as I can remember, communication felt like the scariest thing to me. It may seem rather weird, but I would always over think everything and end up saying nothing. I think that is what happens when you create multiple scenarios in your mind of how the conversation could go and before you know it you are having an entire conversation in your mind with no actual words coming out of your mouth.
Now, I have learnt to relax and let the conversation flow but GOD has also blessed me with another way to get my message across to people……I write. At unexpected moments I would feel the need to write and afterwards I discover amazing stories that hopefully encourage everyone as much as they encourage me. I write because there are many things that are hard to say out loud and I want other people to know that you are capable of doing incredible things if you let go of fear.
“Take control of what I say, O LORD, and guard my lips.”
Everyone is different and the ways that we are able to communicate, differ as well: talking, writing, drawing, dancing, singing and painting are just a few examples. If you are not able to understand someone, take time to try and understand their methods of communication.
“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”
-1 Thessalonians 5:11
“You know the stars can’t shine without the dark. A fire can’t catch without a spark. Like sunshine mixed with a little bit of rain, beauty begins right after the pain. So count your rainbows.”
-Count Your Rainbows, 1 Girl Nation
I have heard people label Wednesdays as the worst day of the week because it is in the middle – two days from the beginning of the weekend and two days after the weekend has ended. Any which way, people hope for it to pass quickly so that they can get to the weekend. There is a really weird obsession with the weekend, as though that is the only time when you can enjoy yourself. But why? Why not just enjoy every moment of every day because you will never get that specific moment back again? For example, Wednesday April 22 2015 will only happen once. So embrace it. We need to learn to make the most of every moment we have.
Everyday is like a rainbow. It has the potential to be beautiful, but if you want the rainbow you have to deal with the rain. So if you want the weekend, learn to enjoy the days that come before that as well.
Life is like an endless dictionary with a steady flow of new words. But with new words come new experiences and new adventures. Some may seem daunting and impossible for any person to handle but you are going on these adventures with the greatest companion any person could ask for.
HE would never abandon you when things get rough. Whether it is rocky mountains or warm deserts……HE is there and HE will continue to be there. You do not determine in which circumstances HE is there, HE is there through it all but you do choose in which circumstances you acknowledge the fact that HE is with you.
There are thousands of topics for any person to write about at any given moment, ranging from serious and introspective to philosophical and existential. I think that one of the easiest topics to write about is love. We all experience love everyday of our lives. Some would argue that it is only an abstract word used too often, so now it has no real meaning. I cannot judge or criticise anyone else’s viewpoints but to me, love is not just a word. It is a feeling……a tangible feeling that starts on the inside but soon radiates to the outside, for everyone to see.
Without love we would not even exist. Think about it. The most well known scripture is John 3:16 “For GOD loved the world so much that HE gave HIS one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in HIM will not perish, but have eternal life.”
See, GOD’s love for us was so great that HE wanted us to be able to live…not a life bound to sin but one free from it.
‘What love is this that YOU gave YOUR life for me? Made a way for me to know YOU.’
-What Love Is This, Kari Jobe
Thinking back to the past year and realizing that it has been incredible. I have learnt so much:
-I have learnt how to selflessly love and genuinely care about others.
-I have learnt that no matter how people treat you, you always need to show them love and kindness, regardless of how much they hurt you. Two wrongs do not make a right and that that is essential to living a Christ-like life.
-I have learnt that there is a distinct difference between love, like, crush and infatuation. Even though the dictionary has meanings for each of these, I feel that there is not a specific definition that can be written next to these terms because we all see and feel it in different ways, but at a certain point in our lives – often due to uncomfortable or less than ideal circumstances – we learn what these terms really mean.
-I have learnt how to love. I always thought that I knew how to love, but then I realized that I cannot say that I love someone and do certain things that I know hurts them. That is one of the greatest lessons I have ever learnt: LOVE IS NOT SELFISH.
I have always loved 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
And to me this makes it clear what love should and should not be. If we all compared how we treat those we love with this scripture, how many of us would not fall short?
When you see someone you love in pain, you feel it with them and it feels as though your heart could break from seeing them hurt like this. So how much more does GOD not feel it with us when we hurt? That is why we need to remember that we are never alone, even when it may seem as though no one is around…GOD is there. HE just wants us to give it over to HIM.
‘HE heals the broken hearted and bandages their wounds.’
HE is always there and HE will continue to be there. Though we deny HIM. Though we refuse to acknowledge HIM, HE is there. And through it all, HE still loves us the same. There is nothing you can do to make GOD love you more, but there is also absolutely nothing you can do to make HIM love you less. HIS love for you does not depend on what you do or how much you own. HIS love for you is relentless, unconditional, never-ending and unchanging. There is no one like HIM.
‘YOUR love, amazing, fills my heart and I sing out. There is none like YOU. There is nothing like YOUR love.’
-Nothing like YOUR love, Hillsong United
Everyone wants to be seen, to be noticed. We want someone to look at us and see something that everyone else constantly overlooks. Something special. Something unique. Sadly though, most people do not appear to find it in time or perhaps they just fail to recognize it. See, we have this innate ability to compare. We compare everything, thus creating the feeling that no matter how hard you try, you are still not quite good enough.
All because we seek validation. For people to see something in us, which we cannot even see in ourselves. How could it be possible for someone else to see how amazing you are, if you fail to see it yourself?
I believe that everyone is special because everyone is unique. Therefore, we are all BEAUTIFUL, LOVABLE, WANTED, EXCEPTIONAL, AMAZING and PRECIOUS. If you cannot find people around you to see that, look up…GOD will always see you for who you really are and that is nothing short of a beautiful masterpiece.
“For we are GOD’s masterpiece. HE has created us anew in CHRIST JESUS, so we can do the good things HE planned for us long ago.”
Love life, but more importantly learn to love yourself. You’re incredibly amazing just the way you are. Let nothing and no one ever convince you otherwise.